Working Life Balance
Career vs Family
Success has always been a part of my ambitious drive, I have literally spent nights dreaming, brainstorming and praying that one day I become so successful. I am able to change my family’s life and also that of my future children. With that, the notion of working hard becomes the most important.
Without hard work success is evidently limited.
Serena Williams is the epitome of a hardworking successful woman to me. One thing I learned about Serena after reading ‘My Life By Serena Williams’ is how much she wanted to be champion. She had a burning desire she as much as her father did at wanting herself to be great and she put enormous amounts of pressure on herself to achieve that.
The grand slam champion was never afraid of love either, she was open to having her Mr Right sit in her tennis box and cheer her on. With a reputation of being one of the greatest champions of all times naturally Serena may come across intimidating to men. Despite that she has dated some very high profile and well known men.
Recently she married Alexis Ohanian and gave birth to Alexis Olympia Ohanian – giving an interview to vogue magazine she mentioned the following
“Now that I’m 36 and I look at my baby, I remember that this was also one of my goals when I was little, before tennis took over, when I was still kind of a normal girl who played with dolls. Oh, my God, I loved my dolls.”
“To be honest, there’s something really attractive about the idea of moving to San Francisco and just being a mom,” she says. Reddit, the news aggregator of which Alexis is a cofounder, is based there, and they’ve just found a house in Silicon Valley. “But not yet. Maybe this goes without saying, but it needs to be said in a powerful way: I absolutely want more Grand Slams. I’m well aware of the record books, unfortunately.”
Serena is on a mission to win 25 Grand Slams passing Margaret Courts record and being the undisputed greatest champion of all time. She is 36 and already has won 23 Grand Slams. I remember watching Serena and just like everyone else she is human she gets really nervous and tense at big points and record breaking moments in her career. She believes having a daughter will help that, and I hope so to because we are all rooting for you Serena!
“And actually, I think having a baby might help. When I’m too anxious I lose matches, and I feel like a lot of that anxiety disappeared when Olympia was born. Knowing I’ve got this beautiful baby to go home to makes me feel like I don’t have to play another match. I don’t need the money or the titles or the prestige. I want them, but I don’t need them. That’s a different feeling for me.”
I often battled with that concept when I began to get older and my desire to have children and a family grew. When is the right time to start a family? It is a really big question for career women between the ages of 22-30 years of age, I believe. Some say not until they are on the desired salary, or when they meet Mr Right. That initial control we place on the thought of having a baby can alter the perception of what it is we need to do.
Yes my career is very important to me, but so is the thought of having a family who I can come home to and share my amazing career accomplishments with. It has been a balancing effort because as someone who naturally wants success, I can and do tend to beat myself up because I may not be working hard enough, or I am choosing to compare myself to other bloggers and artists who have become successful as what it appears to be overnight and I am still hoping that my life will change.
For now I think I am happy to try and maintain the balance between Career vs Family because life is all about balancing nothing is easy but the struggle is God given.